After a long day in the office or a long day at the gym, it’s easy to get up in the morning and check on our emails and text messages. We might even check on our kids or our pets when they’re asleep. But we won’t stop to think about them. And when we do, our mind is most likely on something else.
That’s because we’re used to thinking about them, and we’re used to doing the things we do because that is the way we are. But even though we think about them, we don’t notice. Our brains are so good at doing what we want that we don’t even know our minds are thinking about anything. So when we look at our life, we see the bad parts, but we don’t see the good parts.
But then when our mind does notice something good, we are so surprised that we dont notice the bad. We get caught up in the bad, and then we wonder why the good looks so good. We are so busy thinking about the bad, the good looks so good. But we are not aware of the good.
So many of us have been conditioned by society to think that the “good things” we do are the only good things we can be. It’s a belief that we can’t be good without doing bad things, and it’s a belief that causes us to feel self-conscious or ashamed in the face of our own goodness. But it’s not true at all.
The bad is not necessarily the good. It’s the other way around. We have a strong sense of self-consciousness when we make bad decisions. We have a sense that we are doing something “wrong”, but we are not doing it because we want to.
The question is, how do we know when we are behaving in a good way and when we are behaving badly? Its not enough to just do good things, because when we don’t do good things we feel self-conscious. However, there are ways to measure our goodness in a way that makes us feel good about ourselves regardless of how well we do things. One of these ways is to consider the effects of our actions on others.
When we do good things (good deeds), we are bringing benefits to others. This is called reciprocity, and it is considered a moral obligation. When we do bad things (bad deeds), we are doing something that is not beneficial to others, but it makes us feel bad about ourselves. This is called self-blame. Since we are capable of feeling good about ourselves, and since we can also feel bad about ourselves, there are two ways to measure the goodness of our actions.
Good actions that make us feel good are called altruistic acts, or acts done out of kindness and compassion. In the context of altruistic acts, the person who does the good deed feels good about themselves. By contrast, bad actions that make us feel bad about ourselves are called selfish acts. By definition, selfish acts are done for the benefit of another person, and are usually done for the purpose of avoiding a negative outcome.
A recent study found that altruistic actions performed by a third party are more likely to be rewarded than selfish actions, and vice versa. This would suggest that the same is true of altruistic actions performed by oneself.
Of course, if you look at it that way, then rani avanti would be as selfish as any of its peers. Instead, in rani avanti, we act as a third party who acts upon the feelings of others. Like any good action, rani avanti is a good act that does good for people. But, it’s bad actions that do bad for people. By making rani avanti bad, we do bad for others.